Tips for Foreign Women on Sexual Massage Services in Tokyo

Hello, my name is Arashima. I’m a Japanese male in my late 30s, and for nearly a decade, I’ve been offering sensual services to women of all nationalities and ages here in Tokyo.

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Do you know the Japanese term ‘女性用風俗 (Joseiyou Fuzoku)’? It’s something that has been gaining popularity in Japan over the past few years, so I think it might not be very well-known to people outside of Japan.

It’s challenging to translate it accurately into English, but if I had to try, it would be ‘Sexual Entertainment for Women.’ This term refers to services that women use for relaxation, entertainment, and sexual satisfaction.

So, what exactly do these services entail? Well, they include anything a woman desires, from non-sexual activities like dates and dining to sexual activities such as kissing and petting.

While it’s not uncommon worldwide for women to provide sexual services to men for money, Japan offers a reverse version of this service. And yes, it’s completely legal. Female clients pay handsome Japanese men to spend enjoyable time together, which may include satisfying sexual desires, at a hotel or in their homes. Since the media reported on the existence of these services, the market has been growing every year in Japan, and they have now become quite popular.

Many of the desires women seek to fulfill are sexual, with a primary focus on sexual massage.

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Why is experiencing this service in Tokyo the best option?

While some countries offer sexual services for women, none have an industry as developed and refined as Japan. Here, the level of service, professionalism, and attention to detail are unmatched.

In Japan, there are two main types of therapists: those who work under a shop and those who operate independently through personal websites. Therapists affiliated with a shop typically undergo rigorous training before seeing clients, ensuring a high standard of service. On the other hand, independent therapists, who rely on their own reputation to attract clients, continuously refine their techniques through hands-on experience.

Tokyo, in particular, is home to a highly competitive market, with over a hundred service providers, both shop-affiliated and independent. This intense competition naturally raises the overall quality of service—whether in massage techniques, client hospitality, or even the appearance and demeanor of the therapists.

That’s why I, the author, who has been offering sexual massage services to women in Tokyo for about ten years, have compiled this information for foreign women who may be interested in such services. I hope that by explaining what this service is all about, I can be of some help to you.

Introduction to Sexual Massage Services for Women in Tokyo

Definition of Sexual Massage

Sexual massage refers to a type of massage that enhances sexual pleasure by touching the entire body and erogenous zones in a special way. Rather than using strong pressure, sexual pleasure is increased through gentle touches. Sexual massage generally begins with light, feather-like touches to relax the recipient’s mind and body. As sensitivity increases and a trance-like state is reached, even light touches anywhere on the body can bring pleasure, eventually leading to orgasm.

The History of Female-Oriented Sensual Services in Japan

In Japan, the sex industry has traditionally catered to men. As a result, women seeking sexual satisfaction have long faced societal taboos, and their needs remained unacknowledged for an extended period.

While sensual services for men have existed for centuries, female-oriented services didn’t emerge until around the 1990s. At the time, these services were limited in scope and largely unknown to the public. The idea of women pursuing their own sexual desires was still far from socially acceptable.

However, the landscape has changed dramatically in recent years. Female-oriented adult services have garnered attention, and demand has surged. This shift can be attributed to media such as romance novels, films, and manga, which have increasingly depicted women’s sexual desires and fantasies in a relatable and appealing way. As a result, more women have started to embrace their sexuality and openly acknowledge their desires. Furthermore, discussions about sex have become more open, leading to a greater societal acceptance of women seeking sexual pleasure.

Examples of Services Provided

The following services can be customized according to individual needs:

• Sexual massage
• Aroma massage
• Cunnilingus
• Fingering
• Hugs
• Kissing
• Spooning
• BDSM
• Yoni (vagina) massage
• Having your body licked
• Having your body washed

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Service Fees

The cost varies depending on the service provider, but the typical rate is around 15,000 to 20,000 yen for two hours. Additionally, you will need to pay for the therapist’s transportation and hotel fees. Some shops also adjust their prices based on the therapist’s popularity.

Massage Location

The service is offered as an outcall massage rather than an in-call massage. In other words, the client is required to provide the location for the massage. The client can arrange for the session at a regular hotel, her home, or any space where a massage can be performed. The reason the client must provide the location is that it is illegal for therapists to operate a designated establishment offering sexual services.

Advice for First-Timers

Tips for Choosing a Service

Do Your Research

When selecting a service, it’s important to conduct thorough research beforehand. Check if they meet your essential conditions, such as “Is it okay if I only speak English?”, “Is the fee within my budget?”, or “Is this man experienced?”. Since English-language websites are rare, it is advisable to look for Japanese websites and use translation tools to conduct your research, even if you don’t understand Japanese.
It is also important to know what kind of male therapist you’ll be meeting. Check reliable websites or social media platforms and consider reviews and ratings from other users.

Make Inquiries

If you have any questions or concerns, don’t hesitate to contact the service provider directly. Since each provider may offer different services, asking questions via email can help you determine if the service is right for you. Compatibility is also an important factor. Some men are kind and polite, while others may not be, so initial communication can help you get a sense of whether their personality aligns with yours.

Check Photos of Male Therapists

People have different preferences when it comes to physical appearance. If you find the therapist’s appearance off-putting, it might be challenging to feel good, no matter how skilled they are at sexual massage. Therefore, always choose men who post their photos.

Etiquette and Manners for Sexual Massage Services

Punctuality

In Japan, punctuality is a sign of respect. Arriving on time ensures a smooth session and prevents any scheduling conflicts, especially if the therapist has another booking after yours. If unforeseen circumstances arise and you anticipate being late, be sure to contact the therapist as soon as possible. A slight delay of around 15 minutes is usually acceptable, but it’s always best to be on time.

Shower Before the Service

Many sensual massage services involve full-body contact, and in some cases, the therapist may explore every inch of your body with his lips and tongue. To ensure a more enjoyable and hygienic experience, take a shower before getting into bed. You don’t need to wash your hair if drying it feels like a hassle, but a warm soak in the bathtub is highly recommended. Not only does it enhance relaxation, but it also improves blood circulation, which can heighten physical sensitivity and pleasure.

Prohibition Against Forcing Sex

During the session, as arousal builds, some women may feel the natural desire to go further. While male therapists are dedicated to providing an intensely pleasurable experience, it’s important to note that paid sex is strictly prohibited by law in Japan. However, rest assured that even without intercourse, the session is designed to leave you deeply satisfied.

Cancellation Due to Poor Health

If you are feeling unwell, especially if you have a contagious illness, please refrain from using the service. This is not only for your well-being but also to prevent any risk to the therapist and other clients. If you need to cancel due to health reasons, notify the service provider as soon as possible. In case your period arrives unexpectedly, consider your physical condition, and if you still wish to proceed with the session, consult with the therapist in advance.

Mental Preparation for Receiving Sexual Massage Services

Relax

Relaxation is key to feeling sexual pleasure. While many women feel somewhat nervous during a session, being overly tense can prevent you from focusing on the sensations and experiencing sexual pleasure. Once in bed, take a few deep breaths to relax and enjoy the experience.

Trust the Male Therapist

If you don’t like the man, you will likely feel uncomfortable no matter what he does. It’s essential to trust your therapist completely. Once in bed, let go of everything and reveal your sensual side, both mentally and physically, to the experienced therapist.

Communicate

Good communication with the therapist is vital for an ideal session. By expressing your desires and concerns without hesitation, you can ensure a better service experience.

Benefits and Drawbacks of Experiencing Sexual Massage Services

Benefits

Achieving Sexual Pleasure and Happiness

Needless to say, regardless of nationality, age, or gender, no one dislikes experiencing sexual pleasure. With the help of an experienced professional, sexual massage can provide such an intensely pleasurable experience that it makes your mind go blank. This can lead to feelings of happiness and also help relieve stress.

Enhancing Your Body and Enjoying Sex More

Many women report that they don’t feel much pleasure during sex or even experience pain, making sex a distressing time for them. However, with time and sessions, even these women can experience a transformation. It’s common for them to start enjoying sex with their partner and even reach orgasm.

Increased Awareness of Beauty

Many women work hard at dieting and muscle training in order to look as beautiful as possible as they undress in front of male therapists. After seeing a therapist several times, some women may look so beautiful that they look different from the first time. The male therapist is very happy if the woman becomes more beautiful because she pays attention to her makeup and fashion and is motivated to meet with him.

Boosting Self-Esteem

A male therapist’s job is to make a woman feel desired and cherished through touch and attention. Unlike the typical concerns of everyday life, during a session, the focus is entirely on her pleasure. Many women, regardless of body shape or age, find themselves regaining confidence, realizing, “If he’s treating me this way, maybe I’m more attractive than I thought.”

Drawbacks

Risk of Contracting Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

Most therapists undergo regular STI testing—typically once a month—so the risk is very low. Additionally, many professionals take extra precautions to maintain hygiene and ensure a safe experience for their clients. However, if you have any concerns, you can always communicate with the therapist in advance and choose services that make you feel most comfortable, such as those that focus on relaxation and sensual touch rather than direct mucous membrane contact like kissing or cunnilingus.

Spending Too Much Money Due to Addiction to Pleasure

The fees are not cheap, comparable to those of men’s adult services. Sexual pleasure is like a drug, and once experienced, the brain remembers that sensation. Some women reportedly end up calling a therapist almost every week, spending several hundred thousand yen a month.

Falling for the Therapist

Biologically speaking, women are said to be more likely to fall for men with whom they have physical relationships, unlike men. In such cases, women may struggle with the reality that their connection with the therapist is a paid one.

Flow of the Day of the Session

Final Confirmation – To Meet or Not to Meet

Life happens—feeling unwell, an unexpected period, urgent matters, or other unforeseen circumstances may arise. If you need to cancel or reschedule, please let the therapist know at least two hours before your appointment. While the therapist may also reach out for confirmation, it’s always best to communicate proactively. A simple message goes a long way—please avoid no-shows without notice.

Meeting Up

Since the therapist doesn’t know what the client looks like, it’s recommended to inform the therapist in advance about your hairstyle and simple clothing. The therapist will approach you once they spot you. The meeting place can be any convenient location you specify, but if called to the client’s hotel, it is often the hotel entrance or lobby.

Counseling

To break the ice and learn about the client’s sexual preferences, a brief conversation will take place. The client will be asked in detail about what they want and don’t want during the session.

Taking a Shower

If the client wishes, they can enter the bathroom together, but usually, they take separate showers. After the shower, when beginning the massage, the client is typically asked to wear a bathrobe over their naked body. Some therapists may provide paper underwear for the client to wear.

Starting the Aroma Massage

It is advisable to use the restroom before getting into bed, as some women may feel the need to go during the session. Once on the bed, whether sitting or lying on your back, take five to ten deep breaths. This alone should help you relax to some extent. Once you’re ready, the aroma massage begins. The aroma massage is intended to relax the body, relieve tension, and prepare it for sexual pleasure before the sexual massage.

Transitioning to Sexual Massage

It’s common to gradually introduce erotic touches during the aroma massage, shifting to sexual massage without a distinct break. Depending on the client’s preferences, both hands and mouth may be used to provide sexual pleasure and lead them to orgasm.

Taking a Shower and Parting Ways

After the session, take a shower to wash off sweat. Although it may feel regretful to part, it’s time to say goodbye.

Professional Tips for a Safe Session

Spending time alone in a private space with a man you’re meeting for the first time—while also undressing—can naturally bring up some nerves or concerns. Here are a few simple but important tips to help you feel more at ease and ensure a smooth, worry-free experience.

Set Clear Boundaries – Communicate What You Don’t Want

Every woman has her own preferences and expectations for the experience. To make sure the session unfolds in a way that’s enjoyable for you, don’t hesitate to express any boundaries—whether during the initial consultation or even in the middle of the session. For instance, if you’d rather not kiss or prefer to avoid certain types of touch, just let the therapist know. Professional therapists genuinely want to create a positive experience, and they’d much rather know your preferences than unintentionally do something you’re uncomfortable with.

Keep Your Belongings Organized for Peace of Mind

During your session, you may have personal items like your phone or wallet placed around your hotel room. While Japan is a very safe country and professional therapists are trustworthy, keeping your valuables in a designated spot—such as in your bag or a safe—can help you relax and enjoy the experience without distraction. Plus, having everything in one place makes it easier to find your belongings when you check out. Taking small steps like this ensures a smooth, stress-free time for both you and your therapist.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: Is there any chance of being forced into sex during a session?

A: In Japan, paid sex is illegal. If a therapist forces sex against a client’s will, they will be fired from the establishment, and could even face arrest. So, there’s generally no need to worry about that. While I’ve heard that some therapists secretly engage in consensual sex with clients, it is not advisable for clients to initiate such actions. If you are invited, it’s best to decline.

Q: Are there any women’s adult service providers where English is spoken?

A: As of now (July 2024), There are very few women’s adult service providers in Japan that cater specifically to non-Japanese-speaking foreign women. However, there are some establishments with male therapists who are fluent in English.
I am also one of the male therapists who warmly welcomes foreign women who don’t speak Japanese.

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Q: Is sexual massage legal in Japan?

A: Yes, it is legal. As long as it is authorized by the government, all sexual acts except for intercourse are legal in Japan.

Q: Is there anything I should prepare before receiving the service?

A: Other than the service fee and your own drink, there’s nothing in particular you need to bring. The therapist will provide all necessary supplies, including massage oils and bath towels.

Services in Tokyo Where You Can Spend Sweet Time with Handsome Japanese Men

Would you like to be comforted or enjoy a pleasant time with a handsome Japanese man, without involving sexual services? There are still other services where women can experience romantic or intimate situations with men. You could say these are unique, female-oriented entertainment services in Japan.

Host Clubs

This subculture has existed in Japan for over 50 years. Hosts, who are communication professionals, entertain women with enjoyable conversation and attentive service. Imagine drinking with multiple young and handsome men surrounding you. Doesn’t it sound like a fun and out-of-the-ordinary experience? Host clubs are highly valued by women who appreciate someone cheering them up and making them smile when they feel lonely or tired. There are about 1,000 host clubs across Japan.
As for the cost, in Kabukicho, Shinjuku, which is considered the mecca of host clubs, the initial visit costs around 3,000 to 5,000 yen, while subsequent visits can cost over 10,000 yen.
Generally, Japanese men are not fluent in languages other than Japanese, but the number of hosts who can speak English is increasing, so you can enjoy yourself without worry.

This is a website that introduces host clubs in Shinjuku, Kabukicho.
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Rental Boyfriends

You can go on a date with your preferred man at your chosen location. There may be beautiful restaurants, amusement parks, or tourist attractions you’d like to visit but have no one to go with. This is especially true if you’re traveling alone or living in a foreign country. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to create better memories with a gentleman who can accompany and guide you? Leave everything to your rental boyfriend and enjoy yourself with peace of mind, even in unfamiliar places.
The cost is around 4,000 yen per hour, plus the therapist’s transportation expenses and any dining or date costs. So, for a three-hour date, you should budget at least around 20,000 yen. Oh, and a word of caution. If a man is too attractive, you may be tempted to fall in love with him. However, sexual acts are not acceptable. It should be limited to holding hands or hugging. It is only a temporary relationship, so please do not get too involved.

This is one of the most popular rental boyfriend stores in Tokyo.
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Cuddle Cafes

In Tokyo, Japan, there are even services where you can pay a fee for a man to cuddle with you. Have you ever had nights when you felt lonely, worried about something, or just couldn’t fall asleep? Sometimes, just having someone by your side, without saying a word, can provide comfort and help you fall asleep easily. Since it’s just cuddling, there is physical contact, but it remains a platonic relationship. The partner is a professional, so there’s no need to worry about anything unpleasant happening. You may feel your heart race, but you can relax and sleep soundly while feeling the warmth of a man’s arm pillow. Although there are not many such places, the price at a place I researched was 10,000 yen per hour. Considering that you may need about six hours to sleep, it might feel a bit expensive.

This is a stores where handsome men will sleep with you.
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Conclusion

If you are a mature woman looking for a special experience that is not part of everyday life while in Tokyo, Japan, erotic massage is highly recommended. Sessions can be customized to provide the best service tailored to individual needs and preferences. Furthermore, the professional techniques of the therapists and the high level of safety ensure that even first-time foreign women can feel secure in trying it.

In Japan, services that cater to sexual desires are not just for men. Although you might feel nervous, take a step forward with courage. It will surely lead you to a wonderful world, both physically and mentally. Think of it as a spa experience and enjoy it in a relaxed manner.

I also provide sexual massage services for foreign women in Tokyo, so if you are interested, please check this article as well.

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